Celebration of anything or anyone requires one of two mindsets.
The first mindset is make-believe. We pretend something is what it is not. We sing, dance, and light fireworks in false celebration.
Eulogies about abusive drunks being great family men call us to false celebration. We pretend the bad did not exist, and we focus on the good … or make it up.
The second mindset requires gratitude and humility. Gratitude directs our mind to the good, humility to the bad.
We take a principled stance of thankfulness — principled because it requires more than emotion. Principled thankfulness chooses to remember the good, even when the bad creates emotions which make thankfulness almost impossible.
True humility comes in knowing the full extent of our failure and that it could have been worse. We know our current failure is not anywhere close to demonstrating how badly we could screw things up if we try.
Enthusiasm
Healthy, mature minds hold two or more things in tension, all the time. Children and certain personality disorders hold only one thing in mind at any time. They are having The Best Day Ever! or the worst day of their lives. Everything splits into all good or all bad, and at full emotional intensity.
When an immature mind adopts a mindset of make-believe celebration, it abandons reality. It uses a vision of false purity to create unfounded enthusiasm.
Enthusiasm is like starter fluid. It makes everything light up. Enthusiasm works equally well for celebration and penance.
Celebration becomes ecstatic and intolerant of any balance. Getting together is not good enough—it must be wild! Continue reading “Celebration Without Politics – A Canada Day Post”